It is about 4am. I’m up. For whatever reason, I cannot seem to go back to sleep. I look at my beautiful wife sleeping next to me. She’s peacefully sleeping. She’s tired. Inama and Mohau keep her so busy throughout the day. She’s really immersed herself into being their mother. Then she is still obedient to every instruction that she is given as the kgosikgadi. She’s even given up on school - which really angers me because this is the one...
A month and a half later…We are sitting in this living room in Mamelodi. We had come to pay lobola for Palesa, but the morning has been so chaotic. The aim was to be done by 8am latest. It is now 11:30am, and we are about to resume the talks. We arrived here at 5:30am. Pope is our chief negotiator. Uncle Maboko, Ntuthuko and I are the other negotiators. When we arrived, Palesa’s aunt looked at Uncle Maboko and said he...
I love being back at home. I missed my family. LA was great and everything, but there truly is no place like home. Khanya was able to get back to work as soon as we got here. I asked him to also help me get my stores and line back on track while I’m on maternity leave. Khabane is helping him, and they have been incredible. We’ve really been through a lot. Khanyisa miscarried a baby, and when they had to clean...
I am walking back to my car now after leaving the babies in their classes. Banathi bought Katli a BMW X3 when we agreed to move here. Katli is in grade eleven again because he moved to a new school. He didn’t even mind, and I’m happy for him. Puseletso changed her mind about boarding school, so she’s a day scholar living with us. So Katli drives to the high school with Puseletso. He also drives with Zozo and Kari -...
Molise is preparing to leave on a trip to Canada for medical research purposes. I’m not okay with it. I don’t know why. My stomach is just in knots with worry and insecurities. So, we’ve been fighting a lot lately. I’ll admit that I’m projecting my insecurities onto him. But I can’t help it. I don’t want him to go. And I can’t leave with him because I need to be here with our kids. They have school and all...
Meh and I have been giving each other the silent treatment for the past week now. It’s not nice. The kids are on egg shells around us, and she doesn’t give a damn. My mother and her mother try to intervene every day, but Meh is on a war path. At this point, I don’t know what is expected of me. We sleep on the same bed, but she sticks to her side of the bed and I stick to...
This obstacle course is exhausting. I've never had to do it before. I know it's an initiation assignment, but I've had my perks because of who my father was. Now, we are jogging up some hill. We are all reasonably fit, but some are more fit than others. We are joined by priests from other countries. There's not a lot of us. There are even fewer bishops. Then there's one pope.We get to the top of the hill. Someone finds some...
"I've found the key route of our problems and why there is just so much chaos in this organisation", pope tells us. We are on top of a roof of some abandoned building in Johannesburg. "You all talk too much. After a few rounds of sex, you want to be honest and transparent with your women about shit that has nothing to do with them. That is why when your bitches get tired of your dicks and decide to become crazy people,...
Mapho and I decided to come stay in South Africa for a while as my family figures out this feud that’s happening between the Mohales. While we are here, we want to put some focus on the hotel that I’m building, on raising Inama as peacefully as possible considering that she is a Mohale, and - by Mapho’s request - me spending time with my twins and reminding them that I love them. I am aware that I am their...
I’m sitting in a family meeting to discuss my brother’s marital affairs. I’m honestly uncomfortable and not excited to be here. Worse, I’m the only one from my brothers who is here. Outside of me, it’s just my uncles and my mother. Mmaneo is also here with her family. We have spent the past two hours arguing. Mmaneo’s family is insisting on how much of a dog Molefe is, how he does not deserve Mmaneo, and how they’ll support their child...
