I gave birth at Bara - finally. But my baby is a smaller than the average new-born as he was born before time, so he had to stay in hospital a little while longer. But today, he's getting discharged. Wandi is here with me. She offered to take us to my mom's house in Sebokeng. I'm actually happy to go and be with my mom. Thanks to Wandi and Sipho - my honorary baby-daddy who couldn't be here today because he...
A month ago, I walked out of prison and I swore to all that was inside of me that I’d never go back there. I did my fifteen years and it had been a long fifteen years. The worst part is not even the time that I did. It is the time that I missed out on my child that hurts me the most. I came out of prison to find a grown woman who is now old enough to...
"Mama, is daddy fetching us at the big taxi rank?" My daughter asks me. She's six. "Yes baby, he will be there to fetch us when we arrive." I say. “I like it at granny’s house. Daddy scares me sometimes.” She says. I take a deep breath because I genuinely don’t know how to respond to that. Her dad scares me too. All the time. When he beats me up, when he rapes me and when he makes me watch him have sex...
This morning, I'm at the church's office building. My parents are the founders of the Faith and Spirit Church. They founded it in the first year of their marriage. The story behind creating the church is that they struggled to have children in their first two years of marriage. Therefore, they decided to start a Faith and Spirit journey with the Lord, healing people from their pain by sharing their experience with God in their journey of finding a child. My...
Yoh, I'm getting closer and closer to giving birth to this child. It's actually depressing me because I have no idea what I'm going to do with this child when he is born. Let me not be rude. I haven't even introduced myself and I'm about to pour out all my issues on you. Trust me, I have a lot of them. My name is Basetsana Mofokeng. I know Wandi because we live in the same place. We have both rented back...
It has been fifteen years that I have spent behind bars. Today, I am a forty-three-year-old free woman. I did my time, but none of it was good behaviour. My daughter, Wandisa, is a groovy beautiful woman now. She is twenty-five years old now. She's a sassy grown woman that I did my best to raise behind bars. You see, her father is a married man who came into my life and turned my life upside down for the worst. I...
I'm at work today. It is slightly slow. Nomzamo is still on maternity leave. I think Leruo low-key wants her to stop working. I mean, her daughter is old enough to be at home with a nanny or be at an early development centre. But she's still at home, nursing and watching that baby eat, shit, sleep and grow an inch bigger every day. Because it's a bit slow, the secretary, the PA and I alternate with coming in. This week is...
I actually enjoy having Rea and his family around. My kids are happy too. Nandi is very helpful with the kids. She loves the outdoors and there's always something for them to do over the weekends. Honestly, it makes my life a whole lot better. I get to put in some hours at work as well. Being Ona's wife and a mom takes up so much of my time that my work does begin to slack... unless you are Thabi...
Khanyi's lobola is tomorrow. Fikile and her two sisters seem to be getting along this week. That's probably because they are ganging up on Latifah and it's actually funny: the three sisters featuring Khanyisa. Fikile was so happy when they arrived on Tuesday. They literally said, "Fiki, we don't have money to offer, but we'd like to offer support and hands." Fikile cried and hugged them. And it's been a great time ever since. They stay with their kids in the cottage...
Today is Khanyi's umemulo. She's been waiting for this day since before she was even born. I'm excited for her. I really am. We were all invited. It's her 21st birthday and her party is her umemulo. My parents are very excited. Banathi's parents are super thrilled. We are already in South Africa and are staying at The Four Seasons. I spoke to Mr R yesterday during preparations for today. I asked him and Mrs R if they could allow...
