We are here at Wandi's dad's house. Today, Senzi is going to pay lobola for Wandi. Can we just talk about that romantic proposal for a minute?! I mean guys, is there a more perfect proposal? And the whole world got to see it! It was trending all week. I'm so happy for Wandi. She deserves all of this happiness. It's 5am. I'm here with my kids and Wandi's brother is busy hitting on me... not even the older one,...
Wandi slept over at my place last night. We told my parents about the engagement. Plus, Wandi's father has communicated a date for the lobola. My dad is cool about it. But my mom is upset. I'm not sure if she's mad about the wedding or about me moving. Wandi and I found a duplex that we will be buying cash and moving into together after the wedding. We are at church now. I'm delivering the sermon today. I plan...
My mom thinks it's a good idea for Keith to be involved in Selaelo's life, but he has to pay damages. Legally, Selaelo was always going to be Keith's son and he was always going to have Keith's last name. But, shit changed six months into my pregnancy and now, Selaelo has my surname. My mom told Keith - while Keith was here spending time with his son - that he has to do the right thing and pay damages for...
It's a rainy, stormy and cold Sunday afternoon. So I'm in Wandi's backroom, sitting on the long couch that's in here and have a light blanket over me. Normally, I'd be watching television. But today, I'm just listening to my body recover from being Nathi's sex slave all weekend. I cannot even stop smiling. I start dozing off when Wandi and Senzi walk into the room. They are back. They are soaking wet from the rain. "Sawubona mah", Senzi. "Hey mother", Wandi. "Sanibonani. How was...
I've been locked up in my apartment with my kids for the past week. I've been fearful of stepping outside this door, in case he was watching us or he was right at the door just waiting for the door to open. But today, I decided that I'd take my daughter to school, my son to creche then go and see Senzi so he can tell me what is expected of me while I stay at this very nice apartment. I...
I have just landed from an international flight. While I want to just dash home and sleep, I miss my girlfriend a lot. It is already 8am, so she must either still be sleeping or she must be at work. Let me call her. I dial her cellphone and she answers after three rings. "Hey handsome. Welcome back to land. How was the air?" I laugh. I can never get used to that. "Baby, I miss you. I want to come and see...
I gave birth at Bara - finally. But my baby is a smaller than the average new-born as he was born before time, so he had to stay in hospital a little while longer. But today, he's getting discharged. Wandi is here with me. She offered to take us to my mom's house in Sebokeng. I'm actually happy to go and be with my mom. Thanks to Wandi and Sipho - my honorary baby-daddy who couldn't be here today because...
A month ago, I walked out of prison and I swore to all that was inside of me that I’d never go back there. I did my fifteen years and it had been a long fifteen years. The worst part is not even the time that I did. It is the time that I missed out on my child that hurts me the most. I came out of prison to find a grown woman who is now old enough...
"Mama, is daddy fetching us at the big taxi rank?" My daughter asks me. She's six. "Yes baby, he will be there to fetch us when we arrive." I say. “I like it at granny’s house. Daddy scares me sometimes.” She says. I take a deep breath because I genuinely don’t know how to respond to that. Her dad scares me too. All the time. When he beats me up, when he rapes me and when he makes me watch him have...
This morning, I'm at the church's office building. My parents are the founders of the Faith and Spirit Church. They founded it in the first year of their marriage. The story behind creating the church is that they struggled to have children in their first two years of marriage. Therefore, they decided to start a Faith and Spirit journey with the Lord, healing people from their pain by sharing their experience with God in their journey of finding a child....
